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Some of my people

Isn’t it crazy how hard life is? Most days I feel like I’m barely scraping the bottom of a broken barrel, trying to survive. One thing that I have realized since I have reached the “marvelous thirties,” is that we need “our people.” These people I speak of are the friends or acquaintances we have made along the way, that have helped us even when we didn’t realize it. You know that person you met at your first job that you immediately became besties with or that friend you met at church that always has the words you need to hear at the moment you need to hear them the most? These are our people! I never thought about it until now, but wow! How in the world would I have made it without them?
Some of my “people” that have helped me, do not even realize they have. That’s the beauty of it! The friend that gave me advice on raising kids and growing older; the friend that sat and listened intently to my breaking heart; the friend that felt like a mother to me, but encouraged my walk with Christ; the friend that just made me laugh all of the time; the friend that has recently come into my life and filled a void I didn’t even realize was there. These are my people.
It is funny how God has a way of placing these people in our lives at the perfect time…but then again, he is God! If you don’t know who these people are in your life, take a minute to think of people you have met in your lifetime, that have made an impact on your life. I bet it won’t take you long to realize who your people are. Thank you, God, for my people and new “people,” in my future.

I Know How it Feels

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This one is for all the mama’s that have to share their babies.

I know how it feels to drop your child off with their dad and pray they keep them safe when you are not around, just the way you would.

I know how it feels to hug them good-bye and look at their sweet face one long second, knowing you will not be able to see it until your next time.

I know how it feels to drive away and miss your child the instant they are gone.

I know how it feels to walk in their now quiet room and remember them playing in it hours before.

I know how it feels to feel the guilt of taking your other kids to do something fun when your other child is not able to.

I know how it feels to miss special events with your child because it was not your turn.

I know how it feels to share their birthday with the other person and feel like you are missing out.

I know how it feels when your child looks you in the eyes and says they wish they did not have to go to separate homes.

I know how it feels to have your child cry and break your heart because they want an extra day with you.

I know how it feels to shares a child; it is not an easy thing to do.

Just like you, sad mama—I know how it feels.

Post Thanksgiving Thoughts

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Happy Tuesday! I’m sorry I’ve been MIA for a little bit; I got caught up in my Thanksgiving break and found myself either busy with house stuff, hanging with my family, or being lazy and binging Hallmark. Either way, I wasn’t on my laptop much. I hope you all had a good Thanksgiving and got to at least speak or facetime with your family, if not see them.

Me and Landon on Thanksgiving
My sister and I on Thanksgiving
Me and Ellee

Today was my second day back at work since the Thanksgiving break, and I’m already counting down the days until Christmas break. I get so spoiled, sleeping in and staying in my pj’s until lunchtime, that when it’s time to go back to work, I struggle! I think someone should combine the Thanksgiving and Christmas breaks, and we all have a month-long break from work, kind of like summer break. Okay, I need someone to make this happen and get it put into place so that next year, we will be good; Oh, but make sure this is a paid break; we will need money, of course!

Let’s talk about the big letdown this year—BLACK FRIDAY! I don’t know about y’all, but I thought it was a big flop. I was so disappointed! I went with my husband, sister, and brother-in-law, and we decided to go to Walmart first. We were there around 6 AM, and when we pulled into the parking lot, I knew things were different. The parking lot was partially empty. It looked like a less-than-normal day at Walmart. I’m used to the parking lot being so full you have to park at the Burkes or Cato’s in the shopping center and walk to Walmart. I was in shock.

Well, we get inside, and everyone is calmly walking around shopping like it’s a typical Friday, and nothing grand is happening. We ended up spending an hour there trying to make sure we didn’t miss the “big” sale item that should be there, but we didn’t find anything that came close to appealing to our wallets. We left there and headed to Gaffney to the Yellow Mall; once again, the parking lot was very vacant. I have NEVER been to the Yellow Mall on Black Friday when there wasn’t a ton of people there. I felt like we were in an episode of the Walking Dead and were a few of the remaining survivors looking for supplies. It was unreal. The sales were okay, but nothing to jump up and down about. I was so thankful I had done a lot of my shopping online the night before. Bath and Body Works and the Nike Outlet was about the only place I saw a crowd at the whole mall. After walking around and not seeing much sales, we decided to go to Greenville, to the mall there. That was the only place that looked like a typical Black Friday to me.

I suppose most people shopped online and purchased their stuff from the comfort and safety of their homes, but I needed to feel the normalcy of Black Friday, and it just didn’t happen for me. I can only hope and pray that Christmas will feel somewhat ordinary, but I imagine it will be just like Thanksgiving.

Please don’t think I take COVID lightly because I don’t, and I know we need to be as cautious as we can be, but I feel like, at some point, we must go back to our ordinary lives. That’s just my thoughts on it, and I pray that 2021 will bring the normalcy that we all need to feel. I will end on that note. I hope y’all have a great night!

Much love,
Chelsea

My dog, Lady on Thanksgiving Day
My husband and son on Thanksgiving

YOLO

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We are officially three days from Thanksgiving—a.k.a. eat as much food as you want day yay! I have been exercising and watching what I eat for the last couple of weeks to try and lose a few pounds before that day. Well, I lost half a pound; woo hoo, go me (insert sarcasm), and then the first Thanksgiving dinner with my mom’s side of the family came around. Lucky me, I got to bring two pecan pies home and, I’ve been eating on them since I brought them home.

It’s funny because I work out, take a shower, and then sit down with usually two pieces of pie like I’m rewarding myself for all the work I just did. Ha! I think at this point, I’m just exercising to be able to eat the pie without having the guilt and the fat on me. What’s that saying? You only live once? Yeah, that’s my motto for the rest of this week—possibly the year.

My current situation

2020 has been a rough year for everyone and, I think we all deserve to eat as much pie and mashed potatoes as we want! Also, if you would like to put your Christmas decorations and tree up, then by George, go for it. I put all of ours out yesterday except for the real tree we pick out after Thanksgiving. It has brightened my mood already, and I don’t know about y’all, but I could use a little extra mood-brightening this year.

My pretty tree in my dining room

The other thing I’m super excited about this week is BLACK FRIDAY! I must go Black Friday shopping even if I only walk around the store and people watch. I love the thrill and excitement on everyone’s face as they run around the stores looking for the next sale item. I know that COVID has put a damper on this as well, so I’m not sure how Black Friday will go this year, but I don’t care. I’ll be right there with the crazies, with my coffee in hand. I need to feel some normalcy this year, and I feel like shopping after Thanksgiving will give me a tiny feel of it.

Well, if I don’t blog again before Thanksgiving, I hope you all have a Happy Thanksgiving and remember the reason we celebrate. We have SO much to be thankful for this year. I have a lot to be thankful for, including all of you and the support you have given me over the last couple of months. Thank you all so much!

Much love,
Chelsea

There was Jesus

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This morning I woke up with the song “There was Jesus” by Zach Williams and Dolly Parton on my mind. It just kept playing over and over like it was on repeat. Then I started getting ready for work, and I turned my music on and what do you know, the song starts playing. I love how God does that; it’s like he wants you to know he’s right there with you at that moment. I also knew this would be my next post. 😊

I love the song, I don’t know if you have ever heard it or listened to the words, but the song is about how no matter where you have been in this life or what you have been through, Jesus has always been there. He has been there when no one else was. In the times you thought you were walking these roads alone or were at your lowest point, he was there. I love the chorus in the song; it says, “In the waiting, in the searching, in the healing, in the broken, like a blessing buried in the broken pieces, every minute, every moment, where I’ve been or where I’m going, even when I didn’t know it, or couldn’t see it, there was Jesus.” So good and so true!

I think back on my life and how I’ve had many times when I felt so alone or lost and was unsure of what my next move would be, and even though I felt alone, he was always there. He never left me. I think of times when I was waiting on answers or waiting to see about new opportunities; he was there with me through the wait. When my heart had been breaking, and no one could comfort me, he was there. What an incredible friend! I have some great friends in this world, but even though they are great, they’ll never be as great as Jesus.

There is a scripture in Proverbs that says, “There is a friend that sticks closer than a brother.” Do you know who that friend is? Jesus. He is the very best friend you could ever ask for, and I hope you all know he loves you and he is there whenever you need him. If you haven’t heard the song, check it out. I promise you will love it.

Also, if you ever need a friend or someone to talk to, I’ll be happy to lend a shoulder; send me a message. 😊

Love to you all,
Chelsea

Hallmark Addiction

Hello, my name is Chelsea, and I’m addicted to Hallmark Christmas movies. I doubt I’m the only one with this addiction; It’s like they know what women love and want to hear and throw it into a movie with everything revolving around Christmas. I love a good love story, and if you add my favorite holiday on top of that—I’m hooked!

Every November, the addiction begins; I get the itch to binge-watch these love stories, and once I sit down and start watching, you might as well cancel all plans because you’ll find me on the couch or in my bed, in my sweats with that giddy smile on my face. I can’t help it. I love every one of the movies, and some of them I’ve watched multiple times.

You would think I would get tired of the same old storyline, but I don’t. I can pretty much figure out what’s going to happen and who is going to fall in love with who at the beginning of the movie, but I’m still going to watch it and get all giddy when “Sarah” falls in love with “James” and they let it be known at the Christmas party, right before “James” moves far away. Ha! I told you I’m addicted.

If you happen to be one of those people that think Hallmark is stupid and plays the same stuff over and over, we can’t be friends. I can’t be apart of your satanic attitude. Ha! Ha! I’m joking. But seriously, what is wrong with you? Hallmark makes me so happy! My husband would agree too. You see, this year, we no longer have Directv, and I told him I was about to download the Hallmark Christmas Movie app, and that sweet man of mine purchased a TV plan that included Hallmark so I could watch my movies. That’s true love—or he knows I’ll whine about it until I get to watch it.

Well, I’ve got to go, there’s a love story on, and it’s calling my name. Feel free to join in on the Hallmark love. From now until Christmas, there will be a movie playing any time you turn it on, and I know you are dying to watch one and feel that Christmas love (insert wink).

Much love,
Chelsea

This One’s for the Girls

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Ladies, this one is for y’all, so if you are a guy and you’ve read this far–ha! Who am I kidding? Guy’s don’t read anything. Anywho back to what I was saying– are y’all sick of cleaning the house as much as I am? I feel like it is never-ending. I spent most of Friday cleaning the entire house. I wiped down everything in the kitchen, cleaned the bathrooms, swept and mopped the floors, vacuumed, and dusted all the furniture. The house was clean and shiny, and the aroma of bleach and lemons filled the air, but by Sunday, it was messy again.

I feel like my life revolves around working, cleaning the house, and doing laundry. When does this ride end, asking for a friend but seriously, I would love to know how y’all deal? When I come home from work every day and see little messes all over the house and the grime on the floors, I want to turn around, walk out and drive to another home (preferably the Ritz-Carlton).

I have read those sweet and encouraging articles about breaking the cleaning up and doing it over some time; that way, you don’t feel so overwhelmed. However, I don’t want to do that either. At this point in my life, a maid and chef sound pretty awesome; too bad my budget won’t cover one. Usually, my house cleaning (other than keeping everything picked up); is put off to the weekend, and I spend one of my days off cleaning up the wreckage from the days before.

I feel like guys have it made. They use the whole “yard work” junk to guilt us into cleaning the house, but when you think about it, we are getting the crap end of the deal. It takes a few hours to mow grass, weed eat, and do whatever else they do, but our house cleaning job is never-ending. Someone, please explain how this is fair. Also, how come when they get a day off work, they use it to relax and unwind, but when we get a day off, we have to go to the grocery store, run errands, and clean the house. Oh my, I just opened a new set of problems.

Ladies, I say we go on strike and let these men see how much “house cleaning” we have to do. Maybe then they’ll stop their, “I do the yard work” bologna and pick up a broom occasionally. If you are one of those fortunate ladies who has a man that cleans the house, cooks, does laundry, and the yard work. Well, you just better count your blessings and give us tips and tricks on how you created this man. Ha-ha! I’m picking. Anyhow, I’ll stop my ranting and raving for now. I think I’ll end this Monday sitting and watching some tv and enjoying the view of my kids destroying all my hard work.

I seriously would love to hear what y’all do to keep a clean house, work full time, and run a household without losing your mind! Fill us in on your tips and tricks, and MAYBE I’ll try them.

Much love,
Chelsea

Social Media

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It’s Friday! Woohoo! I don’t know about y’all, but I’ve been looking forward to this day all week. It’s the start of the weekend, and after the week we have had, I need a peaceful, relaxing weekend and preferably with less social media. I’m trying to keep my mind on Jesus and less on the Presidential Election; this can be challenging if we are forever reading and looking at social media. I know this because I have been so guilty of it.

Once I start reading, it consumes my mind, and I’m back to worrying and fretting over the outcome of this election. Philippians 4:6-7 tells us, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” So, we do not need to be anxious over this! We need to pray and ask God for what we want and need, and he will give us peace over this situation.

A couple of months ago, I took a social media break, and I can’t even explain how wonderful it was. I had no clue what was going on in the world or my town, and I can’t say I was upset about this. My mind was free from worry and fear; I was living life like everything was grand. Since I started blogging, I’ve been using social media again to get my blog out. I can see a difference in me since I’m back on it. I’m picking up my phone more, my mind is forever thinking about it, and I have this worry and fear on me again.

Netflix did a documentary on the effects of social media, called The Social Dilemma. I have not watched it yet, but I’ve heard quite a bit of people talking about it. It talks about the impact social media has on the world and how it consumes us. I’m not saying social media is all bad, but it takes over our minds and our attitudes. It can create so much negativity in our life.

With everything going on in the world right now, the last thing we need is to fill ourselves with negativity and hate. Today I challenge each one of you to take a break. Even if it is for a couple of hours or a day, take a break. Clear your mind and fill it with positivity and love. Hate starts with us; it is hard to spread hate and negativity when we fill our hearts and mind with good.

Proverbs 4:23 NKJV “Finally, brethern, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy-mediate on these things.”

I love each one of you and hope y’all have a fantastic weekend!

Chelsea

Election Day

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Tomorrow is a big day for America; it’s Election Day, and we find out if we will have the same President for four more years or if a new one will step in. It’s also a big day for American’s because we get to decide what happens next. Do we accept our new President with open arms and prayer, or do we start riots, fights, and create disasters all over America?

I saw this meme I loved today. It said, “You know what I’m going to do the day after Election Day if my candidate loses? Go to work. Be happy. Live my life. Love others. If he wins? Same.” I had to read it several times because it hit me hard. No matter who wins the election tomorrow, it won’t change who we are and what we are called to do; to love others, to help our fellow neighbors, and to be Christ-like in every area of our life. Jesus would not boast, talk down to others, or start riots in the cities. He loves everyone, including the Presidential candidate that you don’t.

Don’t forget this story has already been written. We know what happens in the end and who is the ultimate winner. Don’t let this election change your attitude and your testimony. No matter who wins tomorrow, God is still in control.

Start tonight with a prayer for our future President and America!

Much love,
Chelsea